Why You Should Say "Hi" First
Ever walk down the street and see millions of faces you don't know and just wish on the inside that you had the courage to talk to people. As an introvert and shy guy in general, I have struggled with this problem for most of my life and all of that slowly started to change the moment I decided to take initiative and say hi first.
No one will wait for you to say it. I found it to be more of an instinct that occurs the moment I lay eyes on a close friend or acquaintance. It helps with easing the tension when our brains recognize a familiar face. If you struggle with social anxiety, this may help you ease those worries but the best way to do it still is to recognize that you need to reprogram your mind to see social situations in a different light honestly.
The only exception to this is someone who ends up ignoring your presence entirely as you acknowledge them. It is a very dissatisfying feeling but there definitely are people like that. Don't worry about them, they aren't worth your time and the best part is that you'll have a better idea of who to acknowledge and who to actually ignore. It is those people that aren't worth your time.
The Benefit:
You open up yourself more to serendipity. You will never know what's on a person's mind until you ask. Starting a dialogue can be taken many places. When you give your salutations, feel free to follow up with some dialogue. It doesn't have to be so entertaining but starting even small talk can place a bit of an investment into the relationship bank account you built with those around you. Sometimes people may have good news and they've been waiting for someone to get to share it with. That's where you come in. Don't take anything too seriously and keep an open mind. You can't be a good conversationalist without being a good listener too. As the saying goes, "it takes two to tango."
You build confidence. Think of each intro as a way for others to at least acknowledge your presence. There is nothing wrong with letting people know you have entered the room and you are available to them.
An opportunity to bring a smile to someone. Once you've practiced the skill of saying hi on multiple occasions you can throw in your own twists into it to make the process more enjoyable or even immediately jumping straight to conversation. The beauty of this is that you will never know where the conversation may take you or if it will just end up close ended with a hi and hi back, those types of short dialogues are signs that people are too busy or don't want to invest into a relationship. Remember, time is valuable so spend it building strong relationships with people whose lives you can add more value to.
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No one will wait for you to say it. I found it to be more of an instinct that occurs the moment I lay eyes on a close friend or acquaintance. It helps with easing the tension when our brains recognize a familiar face. If you struggle with social anxiety, this may help you ease those worries but the best way to do it still is to recognize that you need to reprogram your mind to see social situations in a different light honestly.
The only exception to this is someone who ends up ignoring your presence entirely as you acknowledge them. It is a very dissatisfying feeling but there definitely are people like that. Don't worry about them, they aren't worth your time and the best part is that you'll have a better idea of who to acknowledge and who to actually ignore. It is those people that aren't worth your time.
The Benefit:
You open up yourself more to serendipity. You will never know what's on a person's mind until you ask. Starting a dialogue can be taken many places. When you give your salutations, feel free to follow up with some dialogue. It doesn't have to be so entertaining but starting even small talk can place a bit of an investment into the relationship bank account you built with those around you. Sometimes people may have good news and they've been waiting for someone to get to share it with. That's where you come in. Don't take anything too seriously and keep an open mind. You can't be a good conversationalist without being a good listener too. As the saying goes, "it takes two to tango."
You build confidence. Think of each intro as a way for others to at least acknowledge your presence. There is nothing wrong with letting people know you have entered the room and you are available to them.
An opportunity to bring a smile to someone. Once you've practiced the skill of saying hi on multiple occasions you can throw in your own twists into it to make the process more enjoyable or even immediately jumping straight to conversation. The beauty of this is that you will never know where the conversation may take you or if it will just end up close ended with a hi and hi back, those types of short dialogues are signs that people are too busy or don't want to invest into a relationship. Remember, time is valuable so spend it building strong relationships with people whose lives you can add more value to.
I hope you find something helpful here. Please consider subscribing for more!
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